The Responsibility of Mankind

        Have you ever thought about how many kids you want? I grew up in a big family, had six siblings. I had a great childhood and I think that's why I would like to have a big family. I have talked a little about this in my previous blog "Humanity's Lyceum" if you wanna know more about how many kids you should consider having. Anyway I say this because one of the things I've been thinking about is how hard it is to rise children? I know money can be a big deal when it comes to children, especially when I heard how much it costs to have a baby in a hospital (around $50,000.00) its kinda crazy. I'm sure there are lots of things that come into account when having a kid, but I'm more weird about raising a kid then having one. 

        I once met this kid (when I was helping my dad teach sunday school) who was the most annoying kid, he would constantly interrupting class, it seems like he was always trying to think of what annoying thing to do next, this kid could got on your nerves. This made me think of what it would be like to try and rise this kid and honestly wouldn't  know how I would do it. 

        It got me thinking about why this kid was so annoying. Like what was he wanting to accomplish? Well I believe it was attention he was looking for and trying to get it even if it was negative. This made me think about other behaviors kids might be showing because there laking a need that there trying to fulfil. So here is what I have learned!

        If your kid is showing undue attention seeking like there contitly testing your patience, stirring up trouble wherever they go, they always want that negative attention, and there almost relieved when you do give them your attention even if it's to smack them around. Well like I said in my previous blog "The Unknown" you can get enough of what you don't need, so if your kid is like this then they might be starving for attention. It will help if you give your attention freely, try to connect and get close with them. You will be surprised on what your kids could teach you about life.

        If your kid is showing a very rebellious side, it might be because they feel like they have no control over their lives. To help with your kids try to give them choices and (here is the hard part) let them feel the consequences, through things like this teach them responsibility. Utilize natural consequences this is a good way to teach your children responsibility although there is three exceptions to this, if the consequences are to dangerous, to far in the future, or could harm someone else. When I was learning about this I heard a story about some parents who let their kid dropout of school when they were only thirteen, because he would feel the consequences in the future when he is trying to get a job, this is a bad natural consequence because the lesson wouldn't be learned tell the far destit future. Just don't give them to many choices or not enough choices.

        If your kid is feeling like they need revenge for everything done to them, then they might feel like they have no power over there protection. A reason kids get revenge is so that others would fear them, and in turn fear can protect them from others. So what you could do to help them, is teach them to be assertive (speak up) and teach them forgiveness.

        If your kid likes to take risks then you need to challenge them more and teach them that they can do hard things.

Anyways I hope this helps you in your future or current endeavor with raising kids.