A seemingly impossible feat

 I find myself usually starting with "I've been thinking".....I've been thinking a lot about my future and where I am going in life, there is lots of things I want to do before I die. I want to one day visit the Stonehenge, I want to go on a mission, I want to become a good husband to a good wife, and I want to be a father one day. (There's a lot more I insure you, but these are some of the main things.) So it mostly boils down to marriage. There is a lot to think about, like when will I be ready? How will I do as a husband? And Can I live up to it? I think there is a lot more for me to learn to be able to get to the point where I could be ready for marriage. There is just so many things that could go wrong, I feel like it's impossible to try and predict the future. Like I want to be the best I can be, but I can't do that without learning some tools to deal with the problems. What kind of problems might arise after getting married? 

Well, I think the first month there could be some basic things like, how the partner likes to sleep, finances, personal space, making decisions together, communication. I want to talk more about that last one.

Most problems between two people come from miscommunication, but everyone is different, you might be good at communicating with one person but bad at another, it's just how it goes. You need to learn how the other person best communicates and try your best to communicate with them that way. And I believe that if you both try this, it could help heal broken relationships. Not all broken relationships end in divorce. 

Divorce, it's such a scary word. Did you know that most divorces happen with in the first 2 to 5 years. I feel like just because it's an option to divorce it can scare partners into just agreeing with the other person, and it becomes a bigger problem later, and these problems/uncomforts can lead to feelings of being unloved and ungrateful. Getting a divorce can hurt kids if their in the equation, but so can staying in a bad marriage.

Kids are such a big decision in a marriage, they are a huge time commitment. Kids can take time away from the relationship itself. When I get married I will try to keep the relationship going by making time for her and still taking her on dates.

When you do decide on having kids, I think men should try and expect for a lack of attention because the women will definitely need to pay more attention to the child. Unfortunately men sometimes turn to other things to get there attention like friends, video games, or sometimes they cheat. Taking care of a child is hard, and with this added weight women sometime try and hold their husband to higher expectations, and so get disappointed when the man can't live up to what they believe the man should be doing. Because of these things, I feel like kids are a natural wege in the parents lives, but if you get more involved in the kids lives then kids could actually bring you closer to your partner, to help do this try thinking of it as our child and not her child.

Also another thing to look out for, sometimes when women are getting closer to having their first kid, they reach out to their own moms and look for them as a resource, but this can quickly become out of control. Sometime the mom will move in and it can drive a wage into the connection of the father to the child.

Life is not simple but more natural, but the natural man is an enemy to God. You should try and live a supernatural life.